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If a guy is attracting a bunch of what he believes to be "ugly" women, is he crushing the dating game?

13.06.2025 06:40

If a guy is attracting a bunch of what he believes to be "ugly" women, is he crushing the dating game?

Not to stray from the post but the driving point I wanna hit home is that one of the best things a man can do for his spiritual discernment is remove lusting/need for sex from his life. I’m not saying you can’t have sex. But to not let it blind you to the woman’s spiritual and mental nature in front of you. Most guys look past all that to get laid. Well you might just find if you are patient for a better woman then it will come with better sex too. Detaching = attracting

I’ve dated both attractive and “ugly” women. I should preface this by saying I would never have previously felt ok calling them ugly on here if they did not first reveal to me their ugly narcissistic spirit. Been no saint myself and had to do a lot of growth, but I learned firsthand a woman’s attractiveness doesn’t really dictate her character and personality. She either respects you or not and that exchange kinda starts relatively soon after you meet her. Hence why it’s impossible to say a guy is crushing the dating game in that regard, because you never know he could have found a diamond in the rough (spiritually speaking, which is what we all know matters after you have become complacent with her “hotness”) or a downright liability. In all fairness I learned after that not to pursue someone who is your mirror image. We brought out each other’s faults.

So let’s say the guy is attracting physically “hot” women. Let’s say it’s even multiple women and he can choose who he wants to date. Really doesn’t matter either if they don’t respect you. Imagine the embarrassment of going to an event with your friends and your woman is berating you publicly for trivial shit. They don’t care and won’t hold back if they feel you’re not being a man in their eyes. That “man” looks different for every girl btw. Now, I’d be lying to you if I said that my friends had the same reaction to me bringing my attractive girlfriend somewhere vs. the other one from the past. But eventually they see through the ruse too at her true character. Luckily my current girl has a great one.

Hello, I have a question about astral projection. I started to get interested in this a little while after my mum passed in april. I thought I may be able to see her and speak with her if I managed to achieve astral projection. Since this interest, every time i sleep on my back I go into sleep paralysis. However, I cant progress into astral projection because it is very scary for me as I feel like I'm suffocating when this happens. I panic and force myself to wake up. This only ever happened about once a year before this. It sometimes lasts a long time. This has happened about 3 times per week since my mum died, as mentioned on a previous post. I no longer try to go into it anymore(due to the suffocating feeling), but it still happens. I read that sleep paralysis is the pathway to astral projection. Why has this started to happen so frequently since simply taking an interest in it? Is this connected to the afterlife? I am concerned about it as I now cannot seem to stop this happening. Could it be my mum trying to communicate? Im asking due to more knowledge around this in this group.